It's Not About That

Are you having a streak of “bad luck”? Got passed over, again, for that promotion? Is your dishwasher, air conditioner, etc. failing? 

Are your relationships seeming to get a bit rocky now? Does it seem these incidents are compounding? Are you feeling like you can’t catch a break?

On the physical level I can’t tell you why – but I am pretty sure the why on an energetic level is because…

…It’s not about that. It’s not about the streak of “bad luck”. It’s not about each incident; or the compounding of incidents.

It’s all about you. Yeah*…I said it. Let me explain.

It’s not about each incident; it’s about how you react to each incident.

When things seem to go wrong – one after another – we, humans, have a tendency to step into the victim-mode energy. I am not trying to invalidate one’s physical experience. I’m talking about the energy we each create in response to the incident.

When we slip into victim-mode energy, we’re angry and questioning, or demanding, “Why me!?” And here’s the catch…when we stay in that energy, we are actually drawing or calling more of the same victim-mode energy to us. The Universe (or whatever you prefer to call it) gives us what we put out; and the more we put out, the more we bring in to feed what we are emitting.

We, individually, are perpetuating it – and we, individually, can change it.

Here’s an extreme example:

My narcissistic mother kept on me the whole time I was living with her. Negative comments were spoon-fed me from the day I was born (actually, it began in utero). 

When I was a teen, I screamed and demanded from the Universe, “Why me?!”

Then I married a male version of my mother. We, humans, also have a tendency to seek out what we know, whether it’s healthy energy for us or not.

When I’d had enough, I left my first husband and declared to the Universe, “No more!” I was no longer going to fall back into the victim-mode energy.

Yes, there have been narcissists peppered throughout my life, but I never slid all the way back into the victim-mode energy. Each time that “opportunity” presented itself, I was less and less triggered, until one day I was like, “Meh. No, thanks. Don’t want to play in that sandbox.”

The last narcissist incident, I waited for their true colors to show, and when that happened, I was done. No drama. No triggering. No reaction. I acted, and ended that relationship. Point being, I did not allow myself to step back into victim-mode energy. I no longer let someone live rent-free in my head. I no longer let someone pull the marionette strings (much less let them attach those strings to me).

Well, That’s Easy for You to Say

No. No it’s not. It was not an easy, snap-your-fingers-and-it’s-done type of thing.

Once I made up my mind, “opportunities” arose for me to refine my REACTIONS until there were no longer any reactions…only action. As I became aware, I was able to act more, react less, until no more reactions.

This changed my energy, which changed the energy signal I was putting out into the energetic realm. This, in turn, kind of turned off the old victim-mode energy and began the more positive people and experiences entering my life.

Bluntly, it took work on my part – so, no, it was easy; but it was doable.

Silver-Lining

One way to begin, and I’ve talked about this before, is finding the silver-lining in each situation – and sometimes that can seem like an impossible task, especially if you reacted and are still carrying the victim-mode energy. You have to work at it; to change your energy towards it and/or the experience.

What good came out of it? Well, for starters, you survived. 

By changing your energy, you are not condoning someone else’s part in the experience – but again, you’re not going to keep giving your power over to someone else nor allow them to live rent-free in your head. You’re not going to stop living; you’re not going to perpetuate the “Why me?!” energy.

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