Family Politics and Drama

 

 

 

 I was recently telling someone that Hubby and I don’t do or tolerate family politics and drama – relative or not.

We each have various family units – whether we consciously think of them as that or not – our energy certainly does.

A family can be (but isn’t limited to):

- Nuclear Family
A couple and their dependent children. For me, I include pet, as they are part of the family unit.

- Immediate Family
There are different definitions for Immediate Family and Extended Family. For the purpose of this article, I am defining Immediate Family as including the Nuclear Family, parents and siblings.

- Extended Family
Those who are one household beyond the Nuclear Family (and can include Immediate Family) such as aunts, uncles, grandparents.

Other Families

We also have the following families. You may disagree with my interpretation (and that’s fine), but I think if you look at it objectively and energetically, you’ll probably see it.

- Work/Office Family
- Each In-Person Social Group
- Each Interest Group (hobbies, etc.)
- Each Online Group
- Online Friends

And then we can have:

- Neighborhood Family
- City/Town Family
- State Family
- Country Family

But don’t forget the:

- Actual political association family
- The Human Being Family
- The Inhabitants of Earth Family (including all non-human inhabitants)

And these are just a few of the families we are connected to.

Each family has its own politics. By that I mean each family unit probably has a ... Read More

by Jan Toomer

Don't Compromise Your Integrity

 

 

 This is another way of saying, “Maintain your boundaries, and don’t let others bulldoze over them.”

Many years ago, I had to alter my life and this included setting up and maintaining some boundaries. I wasn’t doing this to be difficult, I was having health issues that required I take better care of myself.

My doctor instructed me to talk with my family and friends to let them know that there would be days I felt pretty good and days when I wasn’t doing well. And it was on those not so good days I would have to say, “No,” more often.

I sat down with my friend at the time and updated her. Her response? “That’s fine, as long as you never tell me...Read More

by Jan Toomer

 

Becoming Feral - Part Two

 

 

 

 ~ Part One ~

I turned and ran. I ran away from the Tracker and from the Complex life. In pure survival mode and driven to succeed in gaining freedom, I pushed myself hard.

The Tracker wasn’t trying to hide his pursuit as we both crashed through the terrain. Though I didn’t think he was moving as fast as he could. Maybe playing with his prey before capture?

About 200 yards in front of me, someone dressed in all black stepped out from behind a tree. “Hurry! Come with me! We can help!”

Ugh! Out of the frying pan and into the fire? No way.

My brain became calm and gently guided me to swerve out of the path of this new person.

As I moved behind a massive tree, my brain said, “Picture a safe place in a clearing, near water, far away from both of them. Now, turn sideways and move to that location.”

Some part of me instinctively knew this was possible, so I followed the directions...and ended up in a...Read More

by Jan Toomer

Becoming Feral - Part One

 

 

 

 This is going to be a bit long – but bear with me. I don’t normally share this much, but I hope you feel its was worth it at the end.

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We lived in a self-contained Complex with nothing but trees and mountains around us.

When you walked into my dorm-like room, you would find a small bathroom tucked in on the left. Next to it was my wardrobe and then came a double sized bed. The bed could be latched up against the wall, like a Murphy bed, to make more space. To get from the door to the bed, you walked along the pathway on the right wall.

Not all of the rooms in the Complex were this small, just those for single people. The rooms varied depending on how many people were in the family. More people, bigger living quarters.

We had a large cafeteria that we all used – eating in shifts.

Every adult had a job, and most of the jobs revolved around the maintenance and upkeep of the Complex.

I wasn’t happy, but I wasn’t unhappy either. I felt kind of stale and a bit agitated.

I left my room and headed for the auditorium to find a seat. It was time for our weekly gathering and community updates. I found a seat at the top level, which made it easier to escape when the gathering was done.

The auditorium filled up pretty quickly, and our Commissioner quieted the crowd and began his weekly droning... Read More

by Jan Toomer

In Love or In Fear

 

 

 “You know my track record for getting married. Five times. Five marriages, five divorces. I just need you to tell me if the man I’m seeing now is going to end up another failed marriage.”

I shook my head. “I can’t tell you that. But I can ask you a some questions. These aren’t for you to answer me. They are for you to think about.

“Is this new relationship from a place in love or in fear? What I mean is, when you think of this man, do you think of...Read More

by Jan Toomer

Experiences Between Earth’s Dimensions and Other Dimensions

 

 

 For those who know me, you know I’m not a fan of labels / terms or hierarchies. I may use them grudgingly so those I’m speaking (or writing) to have something familiar – a familiar context – to aid in following the concept of which I’m writing/speaking.

One of those labels is “ascending”. I don’t know about you, but for me, that term comes with an air of snobbery or “I’m better than you”. I like using the “raising frequency”, which we each do in our own time as per our soul plan (goals our soul wishes to accomplish during this current lifetime) and daily choices.

Okay, having put that all out there, let’s get to the meat of this article.

A lot more people are Sensing, Seeing, Feeling, Hearing and/or Knowing the presence of Others – those not in a physical form on Earth; usually meaning ghosts (Earthbounds), spirits (those no longer tied to Earth energy, but may visit loved ones who are still in physical form), and for those who believe in: Ascended Masters (Master Ascenders), gods or goddesses, Other place beings (aka “aliens”).

And it’s not just us humans experiencing this. It is long believed cats...Read More

by Jan Toomer

 

 

Can I Hear Me Now?

 

 

  Over the years, we were brought information on:
- Not rescuing others anymore
- Listening to self
- Finding our passion

The energies of the time we’re in is asking us to work on SELF. We have to invest time and energy on self.

Everyone But Me

As most of us were growing up, we were trained by society (schools, parents, etc.) that we had to think of self last, otherwise we were selfish. Everyone else’s needs had to come first. Now we’re being asked to release that programming, and again to work on self.

We aren’t asked to become self-important, narcissistic, or ego maniacs...rather to love, heal and listen to self. Of course, it’s a wee bit different while raising children, and hopefully the children will be raised without what societal “norms” look like today. Personally, I think manners, compassion and empathy are what needs to be taught and/or encouraged to grow. It seems as though a lot of teens and young adults today haven’t learned this.

As we heal ourselves, others around each one of us may want, or strive, to match our frequency, but the choice belongs to each individual. This is why we are told we can no longer rescue people...they must stretch and grown on their own (adults). Each individual is being held responsible for their own actions (or lack of action) and words. On Earth, every positive or negative action has a consequence – positive or negative. It’s okay to aid someone, but not do it for them.

Can I Hear Me Now?

Along with the programming of “everyone else comes ... Read More

by Jan Toomer