Perfection Theme

 

 

 Themes, for me, are when two or more people bring up the same topic in a short time – usually within a week. That is when I get the nudge to share it here.

The one that came over the last two weeks is the theme of perfection.

Perfection Theme

We are often very quick to acknowledge and forgive others' imperfections – but man, we are harsh on ourselves for our own imperfections. And by harsh, I mean we chastise, belittle, demean or even secretly loathe our own lack of perfection.

Why are we like this?...Read More

by Jan Toomer

Selfies Everywhere

 

 

 I look around and see so many people – of all ages – with their face in their phone.

• Taking selfies everywhere.
• Using apps to transform their faces into someone or something else. (Okay, this is kind of fun once or twice.)
• Showing off for the camera – often unaware of their surroundings (breaking things outside of their camera view; falling or tripping, etc.) so they can post about themselves and /or to boost their loves or likes online.
• Faking their selfies so they can pretend to be somewhere other than where they are.
• Children as young as pre-schoolers are performing for the camera!

The energy of those habitually doing this, “Me, me, me...” carries the same type of...Read More

by Jan Toomer

I Stayed

 

 

 

 The silent victim is the one hidden in the shadows, embarrassed and scared to let others know what's going on. And afraid of what the abuser may do to them if they try to leave.

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The relationship started off wonderful and pure. Once we got married, little things showed up...just enough for me to question myself. Did my spouse mean to snap at me?

I'm probably over-reacting or being overly sensitive.

I brushed it off.

The changes and outbursts were few and far between at first, but an unease was growing within me. A light gray mist clouded my mind as I struggled to figure out what I did wrong to trigger my spouse.

I stayed.

Screaming, yelling and berating me at home increased. Then it slowly began...Read More

by Jan Toomer

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Sabotaging Self with Self-Doubt

 

 

 When you are practicing your abilities, or strengthening your metaphysical abilities, one of the toughest things you work on is getting out of your own way.

By this I mean we are programmed from birth on to listen to others, not ourselves. Metaphysical and/or energy work demands you listen to you. This can create some inner turmoil, and the self-doubt that we were raised with really rears is ugly head.

A part of inner self may say, “You don't know what you're doing,” or “It's just your imagination...Read More

by Jan Toomer

It's Time For Intolerance To End

 

 

 A question posed to me: How do you let go of intolerance and judging and move into tolerance?

Let's take a look at intolerance; what does it mean and what does it create?

Intolerance is an unwillingness to accept an energy, action or behavior, or belief that's different from yours.  

Having a negative opinion about someone's beliefs, views, ideas, skin color, appearance, social status, gender, etc. because it's not the same as yours and you feel you are better than them because of it is judging.

Both judging and intolerance of others behaviors are rooted in fear. Perhaps it's a fear ... Read More

by Jan Toomer

 

Suicide Sucks

 

 

As you know, our daughter JoAnna committed suicide in 2009. Though her physical death occurred in 2009, she actually started her death process on September 11, 2001 – also known as 9-11.

We were lucky in that we knew why she killed herself, but it didn't make that act of finality and the physical loss any easier. So many survivors don't know the reason for their friend or loved one committing suicide. Either way...suicide sucks.

Many survivors, regardless if they know the reason behind the suicide or not, are left with so many questions that often no one has any answers to. And then there's the risk of the survivors sinking into the rabbit hole of guilt. “Maybe if I'd done ______ differently.”*... Read More

by Jan Toomer